DNA Dating: Choose Your Date By Genetic Matchmaking

article by Maria Perinic
August 06, 2019
We’ve all heard people say they “just clicked” with their partner or that they could feel the chemistry between them. If chemistry plays such a big part in how we relate to others, then why not use it to find your future love match?

There’s no algorithm for finding the right partner through online dating and many of us find ourselves disappointed or embarrassed by the choices offered. By introducing a little science, DNA dating sites claim to have found a whole new formula for love.

While spitting at your latest love interest probably won’t impress him or her overly unless you’re a llama, if you enter the results of your home DNA test into a DNA dating site, chances are you’ll get a head start on the quest for love.

BrandsPricingPlatform ScopeMatchmaking MethodAccept 3rd Party DNA Raw Data
DNA Romance logo$74.75Matchmaking for DatingDNA based alignment + Personality compatibility
Pheramor logo$19.99 For DNA Testing Kit + $10 Monthly FeeMatchmaking for DatingDNA based alignment + Social media statsNo
InstantChemistry logo$149Partner MatchingDNA based alignment + Psychological compatibilityNo
WeHaveChemistry logo$99 $139Partner Matching DNA based alignment + Socio-Emotional factorsNo

What is DNA Dating?

Research indicates that we use our sense of smell to literally sniff out the most appropriate partner. Within our DNA is a set of genes known as the major histocompatibility complex (MHC). These molecules communicate with the immune system, telling it whether a particular cell belongs there or if it’s a potentially hazardous invading organism.

Histocompatibility is used to establish the compatibility of a donor and whether a recipient’s body is likely to accept or reject a transplant. MHC can also be used to establish how likely you are to accept or reject a possible love interest as well but rather than looking for similarities in two people’s MHC, sites like DNARomance look for the differences.

Research indicates that we are more attracted to people with a very different MHC setup which basically means that opposites really do attract. It makes sense, of course, because if we combine two very different sets of MHC, we impart better immunity to our offspring.

Out MHC is very specific, which is why many people needing an organ or tissue transplant often have to rely on family members as they have the closest match. Finding a genetic match among strangers is, according to Carole Ober of the Department of Human Genetics at the University of Chicago, is “virtually impossible”.

Fortunately, finding someone with very different MHC is much easier and it’s something we naturally seek. Various studies indicate that we’re more attracted to an individual’s scent if their MHC is drastically different from our own. While that should mean we can sniff out potential partners, in a world filled with artificial scents, it’s not always that easy.

DNA dating takes our sense of smell out the equation and simply looks for individuals with contrasting MHC. Some genetic matchmaking services, like DNARomance, back this information up with the Myers-Briggs personality test to find the best match in terms of both social and biological compatibility. Other services, like Pheramor, establish social compatibility by looking at your social media profiles which, while effective, isn’t as in-depth as the Myers-Briggs test.


Is This Science?

It is and it isn’t. DNARomance co-founder, Timothy Sexton, certainly knows a thing or two about genetics. With a Ph.D. in population genetics, Sexton has some serious science to back up his claims but not everyone’s convinced. According to University of Alberta bioethicist, Timothy Caulfield, there isn’t “any evidence that shows that this kind of DNA matching can lead [to] better relationships.”

We might still be a long way from, as Caulfield puts it, “using genetic testing to find ‘the perfect match’” when this technology is used in conjunction with a personality test it can, arguably, give people a  better chance of finding a love match with whom they’re compatible on a number of different levels. While you could conduct your own sniff test when you meet an online date, inhaling the scent from someone’s sweaty armpit isn’t very socially acceptable, whereas using a site like DNARomance is.

The science of sexual compatibility has intrigued almost as many couples as it has singles looking for love. Although these people may have found The One, they still want to know if they’re compatible on a genetic basis. The creators of Pheramor have embraced this curiosity and developed a new product under the name WeHaveChemistry. Using much the same processes as a DNA dating service, WeHaveChemistry uses a combination of DNA and socio-economic analysis to highlight the key strengths in your relationship and flag potential problem areas.

Whether you’re already in a relationship or you’re still looking for love, genetic testing could reveal some cellular surprises and give you the information you need to establish or develop a deeper, more rewarding relationship. It’s science… but not as we know it!

DNARomance report

How Does DNA Dating Work?

Although all DNA dating services work in the same fundamental way, DNARomance sets itself apart from the rest by enabling users to submit raw DNA gathered by another DNA testing company. While Pheramor users have to use a Pheramor kit even if they’ve been tested before, those opting for DNARomance’s services can use the results of previous tests done by MyHeritage23andMe, Ancestry.com or LivingDNA.

Although all DNA testing companies operate in a slightly different way, the services listed above provide some of the most widely accepted raw DNA reports so you can use those results to find a love match on DNARomance, discover a new exercise regime with DNAFit or even develop a DNA diet with Habit.

The best DNA testing companies give comprehensive results that can be used for a range of things, making them much more cost-effective than a DNA dating site that insists on you performing yet another DNA test but only gives you limited feedback.

If you opt for a service like Pheramor, the first step in the process is to download the app which you can then use to order your DNA sample collection kit. DNA samples are collected using a cheek-swab test so there’s no need to spit into or at anything. Once you’ve got your DNA sample, send it off using the pre-addressed envelope provided and, within 30 days, you’ll have your results.

You don’t have to use the DNA sample kit to enjoy Pheramor, however, and the app is free so you can simply download and enjoy. Obviously, you won’t get the full power of the service without submitting your DNA but at least you can get to grips with how the whole thing works before investing your hard-earned money into it.


What Do I Need to Start DNA Dating?

The most important thing to have in your arsenal is a DNA sample or DNA raw data from another company. Although you can use most DNA-based matchmaking sites without submitting a sample, it doesn’t make much sense and will mean your experience of the service will be extremely limited.

Similarly, you can create a profile by simply entering the personality type you think you are, but a far more in-depth analysis will mean better matches. With DNARomance, users can pay an additional $49.95 to have a complete Myers-Briggs type-indicator test performed. This will give you insights into what kind of person you are and what makes you tick.

Armed with your DNA and your personality type, you’re now ready to date. As you can see, DNA dating is a simple process and well worth a try if you’re beginning to tire of the online dating experience and want something a little more accurate instead.

Despite the fact that DNA dating is still relatively new, there are a surprising number of services out there, although DNARomance appears to be the only one that will accept raw DNA data from companies like Ancestry.com and Living DNA. This means that you won’t have to fork out another $100 or so for an additional test.

What Can a DNA Dating Site Tell Me?

The main purpose for any DNA dating service is to connect you with possible matches with whom you’re compatible on a genetic level as well as a social one. Genepartner, however, goes a little further, breaking your compatibility down into sections.

This means you’ll find out to what degree a potential match is compatible on a biological level, whether your interest in them is likely to be passionate or comfortable, and whether or not your partner will experience the same level of attraction as you.

Going even further into how likely you are to have a successful relationship with your online match, Genepartner will indicate how probable it is that, between you, you’ll be successful parents. Based on your biological compatibility, Genepartner will indicate how likely a successful pregnancy would be should you and your online match decides to go down that road later on.

Not every site goes into quite so much detail and DNARomance will only indicate to what degree you’re compatible with each potential partner on a social level and on a biological one. Another DNA dating site, InstantChemistry, digs a little deeper into how biology and psychology affect our relationships and gives each user a comprehensive “Love Manual” report on their own compatibility and an eBook explaining the science behind the report.


How To Choose the Best DNA Dating Service

There are a few things to consider when shopping around for the best DNA dating service. For one, if you already have the results from a home DNA test, then using DNARomance really makes the most sense. Not only will it cost you less but it also means you don’t have to spend several weeks twiddling your thumbs, waiting for the results of your DNA test.

Just as the best home DNA testing services offer comprehensive tests, along with prompt and accurate results complemented by a high level of security and personal privacy, so the best genetic matchmaking sites do the same. DNARomance, for example, states that all the data they store is encrypted to protect the secrets of your DNA. Similarly, Genepartner makes a big song and dance about privacy and security, assuring its users that the information gathered from their DNA samples is used only for the purposes of online matchmaking and isn’t disclosed for any other research or marketing purposes.

Pheramor’s stance on privacy is rather less reassuring and its privacy policy asserts that even genetic information “may be used for other purposes”. It also states that “Pheramor may maintain your genetic information, social media, and demographic data indefinitely”. Not exactly encouraging, although it does go on to verify that any information shared with third parties is done in an aggregate format so the data disclosed is depersonalized and can’t be linked to you as an individual.

Given how much DNA can reveal about us and how much more we reveal about ourselves when setting up a profile on an online dating site, be it one that uses DNA or one that relies on social compatibility alone, trusting the dating service you’ve signed up with is crucial. If you appreciate Pheramor’s transparency and that gives you more confidence then, by all means, opt for that service. If you prefer a genetic matchmaking service that’s got your privacy all sewn up, however, then we think DNARomance fits the bill.

Staying Safe When Dating Online

We share a lot of information with complete strangers when we sign up for a dating service and that can land us in hot water. We’ve all heard some online dating horror stories and too many of us have experienced the misery that ensues when an online date doesn’t live up to our expectations.

In many instances an inappropriate match just means we waste our time on a  date with a married 40-year-old rather than the sexy, single 30-year-old we thought we were meeting, but in the worst-case scenario, we could be risking our lives.

Ok, so you’re compatible on a biological level, but that doesn’t guarantee your latest love match isn’t a criminal. Performing a background check on someone before meeting up for the first time is one of the best ways to keep yourself safe and give yourself peace of mind.

The best background check companies will not only unearth an individual’s criminal record but can also reveal their employment history, places they’ve lived, and even previous marriages and divorces. Such services prove extremely useful for those trying to find love online and mean that you can filter out unlikely partners or those who’ve lied about their past, saving you time and potentially saving your life too.


DNA dating is a new phenomenon that could help you find a more appropriate mate who you’re compatible with on a deeper level. If love is in the air then a  genetic matchmaking site like DNARomance will sniff it out for you. Certainly, taking a scientific approach to finding a compatible partner is one way of filtering out potential love matches, even if that science may not yet be 100%.

If you’re tired of the seemingly endless wheel of fortune you experience on traditional dating sites, then a site like DNARomance could offer new opportunities and new romantic possibilities that get you off the treadmill and back in the saddle, so to speak.

A combination of your DNA and a comprehensive personality test can certainly give you a better idea of the kind of people you’re most likely to get along with, both in terms of physical compatibility and disposition.

Those of you who’ve already done a home DNA test and have your DNA raw data to hand don’t even need to part with any money get started with a service like DNARomance. All you have to do is upload your raw data report from a service like 23andMe and your potential matches will be instantly displayed. Why not give it a whirl? After all, you’ve got nothing to lose but stand to gain a whole new life.